Teaching Your Children How To Clean and be Responsible- Giving Kids Chores
Are you having trouble getting your children or kids to clean? Not only can children
from age two do chores, but this will teaches them lots of responsibility for their
future. The younger they are learning how to clean, the better they will get on
keeping things clean and organized, The article below is a good example of where
to start.
Chaos, Children and Chores
by Nicole Dean
Of course we all love our children dearly, but who knew they’d be so messy? When you have
children, you can never count on how long your house will actually stay clean after you’ve cleaned it.
A day? An hour? Less? Cleaning up after your kids does not have to take on a life of its own. By
making a clean and organized home a priority for the entire family and by setting and sticking to
household standards, you can avoid feeling more like Maid than Mom.
Ages of Your Children
Household chores are not just for older children. Children as young as two can learn to be
organized. Toddlers can learn to put away their toys, brush the dog, put their dirty clothes in the
hamper and help to unload groceries.
Older children need regular household chores. Studies have shown that children who have chores at
home get better grades, are more social and more confident than children who do not have chores.
Children need a certain amount of responsibility and need to learn to be accountable for their
actions. Requiring your children to do household chores will help them to be more well rounded
(and organized!) as they grow. Older children can make their beds, keep their room organized and
clean, dust and vacuum, wash dishes, feed pets, and water plants.
Rewarding Efforts
Always thank your children when they’ve completed a chore and praise them for doing it and doing
it well (when deserved).
The traditional chore chart on the fridge is a great parenting tool for positive reinforcement. Reward
your children with stickers on the chore chart next to the chore they’ve completed. When they get X
number of stickers, they get a reward - a new book or toy, their favorite dinner, a trip to the movies,
etc. The chore chart system can be tweaked and customized for your family to suit each child in the
house.
Your older children may be more apt to take their chores seriously if there are dollar signs involved.
Base your children’s allowance on what you can afford, how many chores your children do and how
well they do them. For instance, you can pay according to age (so an 8 year old would receive $8 per
week). Or come up with a pricing system that works for you. Luckily, my 3 year old is quite happy
with stickers, and my 8 year old is thrilled with Yu-Gi-Oh cards.
Flexibility – Make it Fun!
When it’s possible, allow your child to choose chores that they like to do. Their response will be
better because they will enjoy what they’re doing. My three-year old loves to dust. I let her turn her
music up a bit, hand her a damp rag and she goes to town. It’s a different story when it comes time
for her to clear the table after dinner though. That’s like pulling teeth - without pain killers!
Do your children fight over who does which chores? Rotate chores from week to week so that your
child isn’t stuck doing something he/she hates every week. (This week Susie dusts and Johnny takes
out the trash. Next week it’s Susie’s turn to take out the trash and Johnny’s turn to dust.)
Try not to base household chores on gender. There’s nothing wrong with your son having to wash
dishes or do laundry and there’s nothing wrong with your daughter taking out the trash or washing
the car. No housework is strictly for girls or strictly for boys. Send your son off to college with the
ability to do his own laundry, and your daughter with the confidence that she can haul out a ladder
to change a light bulb.
If rotating chores doesn’t work to stop bickering, try writing the chores down on little pieces of
paper and having your children pick their chores from a hat each week.
If your children don’t have chores, it’s not too late to start. Hold a family meeting and explain that
you need help to maintain the house and that effective immediately everyone is going to start
pitching in. Introduce chore charts and allowance/reward systems and explain to each child which
chores they’ll be responsible for, when each chore needs to be completed and if necessary, how to do
it.
Be sure to have consequences ready for chores that aren’t done and explain them in advance. In our
house, if one chore is neglected or refused, it’s a done deal - no allowance, no negotiations. It may
take a few weeks to get your family in full swing, but it will come together - I promise.
You are Mom, not Maid. You can ask for help and get it! Your children may not thank you for it now,
but later on it will pay off for them - and for you! Make housework a part of your children’s routine
and make yourself less stressed. Sit down and supervise for awhile …you knew you had kids for a
reason.
Nicole Dean welcomes you to visit http://www.HomeOrganizationHelp.com to help battle clutter
and disorganization and http://www.ShowKidsTheFun.com to make memories that last a lifetime.
Copyright 2005 - Nicole Dean
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